When you start to change, do the people around you try to hinder you? Has anyone had this experience where, when you deeply reflect and want to change those around you, there is little encouragement, but a lot of opposition and obstruction, even from family or fren? This is because it requires them to readjust or accept loss. For example, if there is someone in your dorm who used to please you all the time, bringing you meals and picking up packages, you have gotten used to it. Now, if they suddenly say they won’t do it anymore, how do you feel? It’s a natural instinct, especially when we are the beneficiaries; it’s quite difficult to make quick concessions, even if willing, it requires a process. At this moment, if you are the one changing, the people around you are actually very scared; they are afraid that you won’t meet their needs, they are afraid you won’t be as obedient as before, and these are all risks for them. Similarly, other changes can be substituted; for instance, if you used to be the one who stood up against the leaders for everyone, now that you don’t want to speak up anymore, you will find others urging you to continue so they can hide behind you. Or if you used to be quiet, being the support for everyone, now suddenly starting to express yourself, others may also not adapt, even advising you to be low-key, saying you’re not good enough; fundamentally, it’s all the same. You are disrupting the previously balanced group. Once you realize this, you will let go of excessive expectations from the outside world. For example, before, you might have been troubled by why everyone acts like this, trying to hinder you, causing you more pain, even beginning to regret your change, doubting if it was too much. Now you can deal with it more calmly; I know my change will provoke some people's dislike or discomfort, it’s okay, I understand I’m breaking a certain balance, and you will let go of many expectations for the outside world, making it easier to face why they act this way.